When you’re in a brand spanking new relationship, it’s hard not to think all of the supposed “amazing” possibilities of where it will go. I mean, the newlywed stage of any relationship is both exciting and frightening. One thing that I wish I could have told myself three years ago?
No bullshit is worth putting your whole life on hold for.
Truth be told, I was in a situation where I was technically in a long distance relationship with a guy for three years. When him and I first met, it was a love story that only those cheesy romance novelists could orchestrate. I was acting very naive for the first time since my first engagement (don’t worry, that juicy story will come soon). Granted, I wanted my life at the time to come full circle but I went about it the wrong way.
Long story short, I recently discovered that through Social Media, he had another person in his life. I always felt that there was always someone else but just the way the piece fell was extremely shitty. Mind you, he had proposed marriage after only knowing each other for a year. In retrospect, I’m thankful I didn’t say yes, that I made him wait to this day for a response. I mean, if you want to see someone else, do you boo boo. Just don’t play me for a fool.
My main thought is that I don’t cry over shit like this. I always treat it like it’s their loss and not mine. Now, I know exactly what you’re thinking. Why does Melissa think that way? I’ve always thought highly of myself. Calling me awesome and a bad ass is an understatement in my eyes. People gravitate me from all walks of life so if I’m not wanted, womp womp for you my friend.
That is one piece of advice I want to share with all of my single people. Own being single and develop that swag. Mind you, I wasn’t always this confident. There was a point in my life where I felt like if a guy didn’t want me, it was all of my fault. Over time, I’ve developed this mentality that kept me strong. Hear me out lovelies, it gets better when you get older. Yes, it sounds so stupid but trust me. I may be single, for now, but I’m having the time of my life.
You want to hear about my first engagement? I don’t think you’re ready for it. 😉
Too la loo bitches.